Now you have to stop. The red flags are nothing new, but where did these walls come from? These boundaries never seemed important before. You just did the minimum, paid lip service and moved on. Now, though, everything else comes to a halt along with you. You look to coworkers, neighbors and passing strangers for answers. But at this point, they all seem more interested in accentuating differences than similarities. Be generous and forgiving. It`s the least you can do for them.